1. Your moods are not fused to a text or phone call.
When you’re single, you are free from the clutches of a personal mobile. No worries if you “digitally” drop off the earth for a few days. On the flip side, there’s no gut wrenching pain if you haven’t heard from a man or woman all weekend.
2. You can take up the whole bed and keep your place as clean or dirty as you wish.
Sometimes, couples bicker about basic lifestyle habits, like how often the dishes should be cleaned, how many covers should be on the bed at night, or whose turn it is to clean the cat’s litter box.
Single women and men are free to sleep diagonally in a queen size bed with the fan on high and the windows open, if desired.
3. You can peruse Match.com.
Being single is an exciting time to talk to different kinds of potential partners, experiment with new methods of dating like Match.com or singles’ groups, flirt with someone just for fun, and ultimately gain deeper insight into your wants and needs.
And hey, maybe you’ll find “the one” along the way.
4. You can travel anytime & any place without any extra baggage.
For the single woman or man, a trip to Vegas, New York, Europe, or the Bahamas can be an exciting excursion filled with unlimited possibilities. No need to check in with or worry about a partner back at home.
(Though, you might need to figure out who will change the cat box.)
5. The phrase “jealous / apprehensive about [blank]” is not in your lexicon.
Fidelity means committing physically and emotionally to another person. The ways that a couple experiences their fidelity is often characterized by lots of emotions….
…emotions that the single man or woman doesn’t need to worry about.
6. You can plan your life without a significant other’s needs or commitments.
Many critical life choices can be restricted by a partner’s needs. Incorporating a partner into your life plan is, after all, the point of a commitment.
For the single person, a big move or risky venture is an opportunity to live your life to its fullest. Unless you have children, your choices are yours to make without owing anything to anyone else.
7. You can save (or splurge) on yourself, for yourself.
As a relationship becomes more and more committed, financials are increasingly interlocked. Married individuals make important financial decisions as a unit. This can be reassuring, but if you’re in a marriage or serious relationship with someone who is financially careless, it can be detrimental to your credit and security.
Credit card statements are under your name exclusively. And unless you have commitments to children or family, you can handle your money as you see fit.
8. Your feelings are not influenced by someone else
When you’re in a serious relationship, your partner’s highs and lows can become entwined with your own emotions.
If your boyfriend or girlfriend is having money problems, issues at work, family drama, car troubles, anything, it’s natural to feel what they feel and will the best for them.
That’s nice when you’re in a committed, supportive relationship, but it can also be draining emotionally.
When you’re single, you are able to fully experience your emotions independently, and develop a healthy amount of resilience, self-respect, and inner-love.
In doing so, you’ll be able to truly know and love yourself.
9. You can focus on loving yourself in the ways that you need.
Ultimately, “singledom” is a priceless opportunity to focus on yourself.
Learning to take proper care of yourself, being present for yourself, and being kind to yourself on the inside instills a solid inner foundation that cannot be replicated in a relationship.
I encourage you to curl up, grab your journal, a good book, or a fun comedy, and be content being with the person you’ve learned to love dearly:
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