I wanted to take my mother’s birthday as an opportunity to step out of the woodwork and write a post about my mother Kimberly, my closest friend, and most profound role model.
My mother was a very young woman when I was born (younger than me!!! And I’m really young!!!)
I wanted to share a few life lessons I learned from my mother, Kimberly Elise:
1. Hold on to your dreams
I remember when my dad, my mother, and I moved to Los Angeles back in 1994. As a 4-year-old, I only had the vague understanding that we were moving to a place called California, because Mom was going to be an actress. My grandmother told me that in California, there was never any rain. I was excited!
I had no idea how crazy it was for our family to pack up our stable life in Minnesota and head west.
The lesson? Hold on to your dreams. Move like your dream is a reality. The universe will honor it, if it’s a part of your plan.
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2. Embrace every part of your being
My mother’s commitment to loving her body, heart, and mind blows my mind, especially as I enter adulthood and become more conscious of my own womanhood.
She has an incredible ability to not let other people’s opinions permeate her sense of self, and I believe this is an essential aspect of her success.
My mother lives in a negative-free zone, and I urge you to do so as well. Do not gossip; do not think negatively of yourself.
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3. Be patient
When I was ten years old, my mother gave me a jade rock for Christmas. The word “patience” was written across the top. She told me to keep the rock in my pocket, and whenever I felt frustrated or restless, to breathe, hold onto the rock, and rehearse patience.
Fourteen years later, I still hold onto an “inner rock.” When I’m feeling frustrated, I stop and I breathe deeply in order to put things into perspective. Moreover, through patience, I embrace every moment life has to offer. Every moment is important: the smooth and the rough.
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4. Get a little goofy
Can I tell you a secret? I am tickled by my mother’s characters. Unlike Helen from Diary of a Mad Black Woman, who journeyed to overcome acrimony against her husband, or the stoic Denver from Beloved, Mom is super goofy. Not much gets to her, she rarely raises her voice, and she’s silly with everyone in public and in private.
I suggest that we all take a note from her, and be silly and fun with the people in your life.
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5. Own up to your responsibilities
I am only beginning to understand this one, as I’ve become an adult, but it seems to be becoming more and more relevant, as I gain more life experiences. From my mother, I have learned the importance of owning up to my responsibilities – and not just the ones related to family. This one extends to my friends, my community, the planet, and myself.
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Thank you for reading! And please let us know what you have learned from your mother, or from watching Kimberly’s movies over the years. Leave a comment below or send us a note.