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7 Ways To Fall In Love With Your Natural Hair

curlyhairFor decades, women of color have been told to straighten, relax, blow-out, and extend their natural hair.

Here are seven ways to fall in love with your natural hair.

By: Toni elleax Zargari

1. Get Inspired.

Whether it is springy, poofy, or frizzy, women all over the Internet have learned to love, maintain, style, and beautify their natural hair. Whatever your hair type, choose to get inspired by visiting sites such as Pinterest, Instagram, or Youtube, and follow some top naturally-curly creators to get inspired on how you can wear and take care of your hair.

2. Get To Know Your Hair.

One of the most discouraging things about going natural is not knowing how to take care of it. Not knowing how to tame your tresses can lead to damage due to excess tangling, over-styling, and under-moisturizing. Is your hair 4A or 4C? Does it dry out fast or retain moisture? Does it shrink up to 80% of its length? How fast does it grow? What are the best products for your hair?

If you don’t know the answers to these types of questions, you may need to get one-on-one with your hair. How can you love something you don’t know or understand? Once you get to know your hair by educating yourself on your hair type, its behavior, and its natural flow, you’ll soon be on your way to a love-love relationship.

To learn more about how to take care of your natural hair, check out Kimberly’s eBook “Curly Halo,” which will teach you to build a healthy hair regimen to prevent breakage and encourage growth.

natural-hair3. Speak In Love Languages.

Learn to refer to your hair in a loving manner. If your attitude behind your hair is hateful, shameful, or critical, it will take decades, if not an eternity, to fall in love with it. Begin by viewing your hair as a beauty mark no different than a mole or dimples. If you can change the way you speak to your hair, you can change the way you treat it.

Get rid of all critical or negative language involving your hair. Words such as nappy, beadie-beads, crunchy, dry, damaged, or the like may give you a bad feeling about your hair. Start describing your hair using a love language with adjectives such as curly, unique, or kinky.

4. Don’t Be Boring.

If the only hairstyle you rock is a bun when you’re natural, it’s no wonder you have a hard time loving your hair. Like a long-term relationship, the key to falling in love with your natural hair is keeping the relationship interesting.

Try different hairstyles that may fit your face and personal style. Accessorize. Watch video tutorials or read articles on ways to style your type of hair. With hairbands, barrettes, bows, and bobby pins, the options are endless.

5. Accept It For What It Is.

Once you accept your hair for its natural beauty, you can begin to embrace it, moisturize it, and ultimately, fall deep, deep in love with it. There is no one-size-fits-all when it comes to kinky, curly, coily, or cottony hair, so accepting your hair for its unique attributes, flaws and perks alike, will increase your love for it.

Acceptance means that you stop trying to change your hair. To begin loving your curls means dumping the chemicals, hot irons, and hair extensions, at least until you develop a positive attitude toward your hair.

Kimberly’s eBook “Curly Halo,” is filled with tons of tips to help you embrace your natural hair.


tumblr_na6lm8H3yy1qamv9io1_5006. Wane Off Of Hair Extensions.

If you’re a weave-queen, learning to love your natural hair may not be on your priority list. To truly fall in love with your hair, you’re going to have to let the weave go.

Taking the extensions out of your hair may seem impossible if you’re a working professional used to wearing your hair a certain way. It would be entirely too awkward to show up to work one day with a 22-inch body wave and a three-inch ‘fro the next, so I suggest going extension-free on your next day off. Experiment with how it feels to wear your natural hair.

Starting small can help ease you into your natural hair so that you can feel comfortable to make it a lifestyle.

7. Don’t Give Up.

Many newly-naturals try the natural thing for a few months too short of adopting natural as a lifestyle. If you try it for only a week or a couple of months, you may not get used to it. You may not learn how to take care of it.

Realize that this is a journey, not a pit stop. Be patient. Don’t expect to get it right the first time. It won’t grow over night and your twist-out will most likely be short of perfection the first few times you do it. Be okay with this and don’t give up.

Featured Images Source: Azola Dyonta. Stylist: Siki Msuseni Model: Zipho Gum

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    Edna Jackson
    February 26, 2016 at 12:21 pm

    I did not receive my book i ordered in January

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      Kimberly Elise
      February 28, 2016 at 11:14 am

      Hi Edna, Your order was placed on Feb 18. It will be out to you by March. Thank you very much for your patience!

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