It’s easy to get caught up in dating, especially when you are searching for a soul mate.
Actress Kimberly Elise and her friend Coach KJ explored these ideas in her recent Facebook Live event. Did you see it? Watch it here.
Kevin A. Johnson is an author, speaker, and certified life coach with over 19 years of experience in leadership development. His soon-to-be-released eBook The 7 Breaths of Conscious Dating: A Mindful Approach to Dating, Self-Discovery & Finding Authentic Love is the result of his dating journey of 100 dates in 100 days.
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Below are some insights about conscious dating from the Facebook Live event.
1) Keep the first few dates simple.
Rather than spending your energy finding the perfect restaurant or the perfect pair of shoes, give yourself the emotional space to meet the individual authentically. A coffee shop is just fine. Coach KJ calls these15-20 minute dates “micro-dates”. Set the stage for authenticity by keeping it simple.
And if you’re hitting it off with them and want more creative and romantic date ideas, we have some here!
2) Focus on gathering information about the other person and how you react to the other person.
Take note of what you are thinking, what you enjoy, and what you dislike. Go beyond the physical: the way he treats you, the way she treats the waiter, etc. Even if you decide that you don’t want to go on another date with him or her, there might be things about your date that you do like. These are valuable clues about what you are looking for overall.
We discussed some signs that show that he really likes you in this post!
3) Keep sex out of the equation in the beginning.
Don’t distract yourself from finding something real by getting swept up in the passion. Often, men and women will show you who they are and what they want at the very beginning. If you get “hooked” by sexual passion, beauty, money, or other seductive elements, you might miss important information you need to make a successful decision.
You can check out this post to help you decide when it is time to have sex with a new partner.
4) Make sure you love yourself enough to not settle.
If you find yourself thinking “I’ll never meet another guy like this,” you might be harboring self-esteem issues that need to be addressed. You will attract the kind of love you think that you deserve. Use exercises like self-love affirmations to generate a stronger sense of self.