One of the most pleasurable parts about being a mother is watching your babies – those magnificently small, helpless gems of new life – grow into real, adult women.
As a mother, you grow older and wiser too. And from a distance, you watch as the young women you raised leave the nest and go out in the world, experience their own life dilemmas, and make their mark using their own talents.
I’ve learned a lot since I was a young mother with my baby girl in Minnesota, but there are a few lessons that I instinctively knew to impart to both of my girls.
1. YOU are the treasure
In life, we often seek outside of ourselves to find personal value through that great job or that amazing person.
We expect it to fill us up and make us feel valuable, make us feel loved, make us feel special, make us feel beautiful, make us feel like we are winning!
But in truth, YOU are the treasure.
You don’t need to look further than inside yourself to know that you are the greatest treasure of all.
2. KNOW yourself: Learn your patterns, your good habits, your challenges, and your vulnerabilities
Pay attention to yourself without judgments. Treat the challenging parts of who you are with care and patience.
You are an evolving project, discovering how to be the best person you can be.
Don’t feel compelled to change who you are to satisfy someone else. Grow for your own fulfillment.
Push yourself in the right direction with gentle guidance, patience, and care.
3. LOVE your body & care for your heart
From your formation inside your mother’s womb to your final days on earth, your body will carry your spirit through life. Honor that.
Never speak negatively or hatefully about your body.
Your heart, which is the very core of your essence, should always be protected physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
Surround yourself with people who love and care for their bodies, and share your life with someone who cares for your heart in equal measure that you care for their heart.
These are my lessons to my girls.
What are yours?