I was in love with a cheater. Madly, deeply, in “we-should-spend-a-lifetime-
together” love kind of love. Even after he admitted to cheating on me, I stayed with him.
Does He Love You If He Cheats? How to Get Through Infidelity
The question, “Does he love me if he cheats?” is not an easy one. When as much as 57% of men admit that they have cheated and another 74% say they would if they knew they wouldn’t get caught, it makes finding a partner who honors monogamy quite the task. If infidelity is a problem in your relationship, is it meant to be?When it comes to relationships, it’s never black and white. There’s gray, yellow, red, and every damn color mixed in between.
Today I asked my husband the big question and he flat-out answered, “NO!”
A few seconds later he changed his mind and said, “yes.”
For most of us, the issue of infidelity is as confusing as my husband’s answer.
After gathering his thoughts, he clarified by saying, “If he cheats, he may love you, but he’s not in love with you.”
Take his word for it.
He cheated on all of his eight girlfriends. This is even more confusing, because my husband claims he was once in love with them all. As his wife and the only woman he’s ever been faithful to, I’m thinking, “What on Earth have I gotten myself into?” Don’t worry about me. I’ll figure my problems out later… now back to the question.
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Infidelity hurts. If someone loves you, why would they do something to hurt you?
Again, there’s no solid answer here. Maybe they’re bored or bat-crap-crazy. In any case, don’t rattle your brain trying to figure out WHY your partner cheated. The fact remains that they did. There’s no telling if you’ll ever have peace of mind even after you get an answer. Truth is, no answer is good enough to justify cheating.
If he cheated, there’s a chance it may work.
My college bf admitted to cheating on me once and I’m pretty certain that it never happened again. This, of course, doesn’t excuse his betrayal, but after we talked it out and both cried for days, weeks even, we resolved to stay together. This is not unusual. In fact, as much as 31% of marriages last after one spouse admits to cheating, according to a 2015 report by the Associated Press Journal of Marital and Family Therapy.
It may be a one-time thing.
The infidelity may have nothing to do with you.
In the case that he does love you, is love really enough?
If you feel there’s no way in high water that you’d be able to trust your partner again, end the relationship.