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Perhaps you dream about having makeup artists pluck away at your brows before you sit in front of the camera for that big kissing scene with — well, you fill in the blank.
Or perhaps success means rocking a hairstyle that spirals nearly a foot into the air or down your shoulders!
Success comes in many forms.
Remember that success does not necessarily look like Leonardo DiCaprio’s character Jordan Belfort in the Wolf Of Wall Street. A mere examination Belfort’s plight will show you that “success” is not about money and fame and high-end clothes.
So, what is success?
Success is the accomplishment of an aim or purpose.
And achieving success begins with defining what your aim or purpose is.
What are your goals? What kind of success do you yearn to achieve?
I’ve heard artists say that success to them means being able to pay their bills through their work. I’ve heard women say it means successfully incorporating exercise into their daily lives.
Once you’ve defined what success means to you, here are 5 tips to help you achieve your goals.
5 Fundamentals Of Achieving Success
Staying in the game, pushing through struggles, getting up each day and propelling yourself forward is a fundamental aspect of achieving success. And it’s not always glamorous.
In his book, The Outliers, Malcolm Gladwell notes that it takes about 10,000 hours to officially achieve mastery in a field.
I love this TED presentation with Angela Lee Duckworth, who researched grit within Chicago public schools.
“Grit is passion and perseverance for very long-term goals.Grit is having stamina.Grit is sticking with your future, day in, day out,not just for the week, not just for the month,but for years, and working really hardto make that future a reality.Grit is living life like it’s a marathon, not a sprint.
Success is not achieved in a day or week; it’s achieved over the course of many long hours through hard work, tenacity, and dogged perseverance.
Another element of success is recognizing that your situation is impermanent, and with the right effort you can evolve.
Psychologists have come to realize that the brain is “plastic,” meaning that the brain continues to develop and mold itself throughout the course of your life.
Angela Lee Duckworth says:
This is an idea developed at Stanford University by Carol Dweck, and it is the belief that the ability to learn is not fixed, that it can change with your effort. Dr. Dweck has shown that when kids read and learn about the brain and how it changes and grows in response to challenge, they’re much more likely to persevere when they fail, because they don’t believe that failure is a permanent condition.
Be open to emotional, spiritual, and intellectual growth over the course of your whole life.
A willingness to make mistakes
Contrary to popular belief, perfectionism holds you back from success, because success requires that you make mistakes. You have to get your hands dirty in order to learn important life lessons.
Mistakes are actually gifts; they are tiny indications of what exactly you need to work on in order to achieve your goals.
The trick is to not take those mistakes personally, and to recognize that you are not your mistakes.
Mistakes are tools to help you understand where you should focus your energy.
Real success – the kind of success that engenders happiness and peace – requires adept emotional intelligence, meaning the ability to understand and communicate effectively with other people.
The simple truth is that most opportunities in life are acquired through your community of friends, acquaintances, colleagues, former classmates, and people who believe in your potential.
Contrary to popular belief, developing people skills takes a lot of practice.
Feedback from friends and loved ones is the most valuable of all.
So, for instance, if your grandmother tells you that you need to be kinder and more patient, perhaps you should consider listening to her. Her criticism might make you roll your eyes, but she – or any other loved one – is possibly voicing what a lot of people are thinking about you but don’t say aloud.
I recommend you read a book about emotional intelligence, such as People Tools: 54 Strategies for Building Relationships, Creating Joy, and Embracing Prosperity.
A reserve of self love
When you push yourself through hardships, it’s absolutely essential that you develop a deep sense of respect and honor for yourself.
The habit of negative self talk is just as demoralizing as hearing mean words from a close friend or stranger.
Self love means knowing how to push your body, and then give it rest.
It means knowing how to care for yourself through positive eating habits.
It means not questioning your value.
If you carry yourself through life on a foundation of inner love, you won’t burn out. And you’ll find yourself exactly where you need to be.
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