You may think that you aren’t worthy of love because you aren’t in it now. However, I am here to tell you that that isn’t true. Like many other things in our lives, we are required to wait for them.
I remember a good friend telling me that anything worth having is worth waiting for. I hadn’t heard it said like that before. Maybe you haven’t either.
But if you sit and think about the many things you’ve had to wait for in your lifetime, you might surprise yourself at the kind of appreciation you now have for it.
By: Erika Hunter
While you wait for your significant other, it is important that you begin to practice some self-care tactics that can help you live a happier, whole life in your singleness. If you’re up for the challenge, I have included a few ways in which you might find comfort in this season.
As someone who has experienced a number of heartaches and a significant amount of time in her singleness, I have become fond of these techniques. Before you continue reading, let me assure you that your current state is temporary. You were created to love and it is on its way to you.
Until then, let’s put the focus on you. Besides, you can’t love properly if you haven’t given yourself the love you desire.
Do things for you.
What makes you happy? Whether it’s getting your hair done, or taking a walk in the park, you deserve to do what feels good.
Each day is a prized possession that should be thoroughly lived out. Instead of dreading the day, you ought to wake up in the morning excited to live it out. It was freely given to you. What many of us tend to forget is that we are fully responsible for how good or how bad our day turns out. It all starts with making a conscious decision.
Do you want today to be better, or as terrible as yesterday?
Do not look at other people’s relationships and idolize.
This is where a lot of us fall. Remember that your life looks different from anyone else’s. Your best friend might be in a relationship, but that doesn’t mean you are to look at his/hers and think of how differently your life would be if you were in one too.
Your journey is unique. It is yours. Refrain from paying attention to relationships around you and begin to develop a stronger, healthier relationship with you.
Affirm yourself instead of looking to man to do it for you.
If you’re anything like me, you might enjoy a compliment every now and then. However, you can compliment yourself.
While in my singleness, I got in the habit of posting affirmation notes on my mirrors at home. Every time I looked in the mirror, I reminded myself of how beautiful I was. Each day, I read these notes and believed them a little more than I did the day before. Start there. Repeat after me, “I am…” Now, fill in the blank.
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In addition to these tactics, why don’t you jot down a list of what you will and will not do in your season of singleness? For example, if you usually hang out with friends who are in relationships and talk frequently about theirs, limit your time with them. Or, if you don’t read posts like these that suggest ways in which you can navigate through your singleness, try to. You might learn something.
So what are you going to do differently now? Let us know in the comments below!