When it comes to new love and potential relationships, there are so many possibilities of mixed signals and miscommunication, it can he hard to tell if he really likes you.
Sometimes it’s a challenge to say the right thing, especially when you want to make a good impression.
But at the end of the day, actions speak louder than words.
As such, it is not hard to tell if a man really likes you and wants to have a real relationship, or if he’s just keeping you around for the benefits, so to speak. You can use a few of these nonverbal cues to tell where you stand in his life.
1. He shows up.
If you have any doubt in your mind as to how deeply a man cares about you, ask yourself, does he show up? He might say that he cares, but if he flakes on dates at the last minute, chooses to hang out with other friends on weekends, or just doesn’t call, then he’s showing you how much you are worth to him.
Sure, it could be that he’s busy with work or in a place where he needs his space, but that doesn’t mean that you should wait around for him to get his act together.
Let him go, and open yourself up to someone else who will show up in the ways that count.
If you are feeling frustrated with a man who seems busy, ask yourself if he shows up for you in the times that really matter: when you’re sick, when you need a cheerleader, or when you’re celebrating.
If he consistently shows up for you, he really likes you. He is probably rearranging his plans with other friends (and hopefully other women) so that he can be with you. He’s making an investment because he feels that you are worth it.
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2. He isn’t afraid of a PDA.
When a man touches you in public, he’s showing the world that you are his.
In a sense, he is claiming his territory (and so are you!).
While public displays of affection are not the ultimate sign that he really likes you, they certainly demonstrate that he isn’t afraid to show the world that you are together.
3. He enjoys just talking.
While intimacy is exciting and helps keep the spark alive, connecting through conversation builds the foundation of a real relationship. You can tell when a man is having fluff conversation or engaging in real conversation.
When you’re having a real conversation, he is interested in your opinions and offers his perspective, he looks into your eyes, and he genuinely laughs. Sex and intimacy become a natural afterthought.
If he escorts you to the door early in the morning after a night of fun and doesn’t feel like talking, then he does not really like you.
4. He consistently wants you to have a great time when you are together.
I mentioned that a man makes an investment in a relationship when he really likes you.
One way he makes an investment is by making absolutely sure that you’re having a fabulous time. He wants to eat the food that you enjoy, play the music you prefer and might even buy your drinks. A guy will do these things because he wants you to enjoy yourself.
In this way, when you think of him, you’ll have only positive things to say.
Don’t go overboard with the treatments. Just say thank you and smile to yourself. He’s into you.
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5. He ends his other flings.
When a guy really, really likes you, he’ll end his relationships with other women so he can focus on you.
And honestly, a man who is really into a woman will do this without hesitation, usually without you having to ask.
The decision to become exclusive should never be something you push your guy into. It happens naturally, with lots of excitement and enthusiasm.
6. He wants you to spend time with his friends and family.
The thing about friends and family is that they ask a lot of questions.
“So, what exactly are you and Alex?”
These are questions that you and your potential partner may not have even asked each other! If you are meeting his friends and getting to know his family, he’s beginning the process of sharing his life with you. The more he does this, the more you two will become connected.
7. He consistently responds to your texts and he returns your calls.
Texts, instant messages, phone calls, and e-mails have revolutionized how men and women date and communicate. We are now able to remain in constant contact with one another, provided we have the time.
Here’s the thing: a man who likes you makes time to get back to you.
And if he is busy with, say, a job that doesn’t allow phones, he will let you know and get back to you later.
Men who don’t respond to text messages or return your phone calls need to be deleted from your address book immediately. It’s that simple. This is a very clear sign that he’s just not interested.
8. He contacts you during the day, rather than only at night.
This goes back to Rule Number 3, he enjoys just talking. If a guy reaches out to talk during the day, it means that you are definitely on his mind during his day-to-day activities, which means duh, he likes you!
However, if he’s only contacting you at night, and I mean late at night for a little “chat,” you can be sure that he’s interested in you intimately, but he might not be interested in you overall.
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9. He likes to get romantic.
Romance comes in many, many forms: holding hands while strolling down a pier, cooking together, lighting candles. Real romance takes a lot of work and planning.
Unless you’re dating a modern rack, it’s okay to take gestures of romance as a sign that he really likes you.