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On Finding Your Destiny: If it’s Meant To Be, It Will Be

if it's meant to beI am a firm believer in, “if its meant to be, it will be.”


However, I don’t believe this holds true until you have given your all to a proclaimed goal.

Too often we rely on this truth as a form of permission to surrender and give up on whatever it is our heart desires-be it love, work or life. In that instance, it becomes more of a spiritual platitude than a universal law and truth.

Now, this doesn’t mean that if there is a lover you long for that you must stalk this person or otherwise be less than dignified in bringing them into your life. No, absolutely not!

It does mean that if you have loved genuinely, spoken from you heart, and allowed the person their freewill to act on their own accord without your own manipulation, if they choose to be with you or not, it will be so if it is meant to be, one way or the other.

Or in a work context, if you want a promotion and you have worked hard for the larger good, offered genuine positive energy and light and spoken your desire to your supervisor, handing the situation over to our Creator at that point would be appropriate, and if the promotion is meant to be yours, it most certainly will be- or not.

On the other hand, if you worked some late hours (with resentment), assisted co-workers (primarily because they help you achieve your task at hand), and speak ill of your boss and company, one really has not given their all. Additionally, the energy being sent out isn’t one that tells the Universe this is what I really want.

For “If it is meant to be, it will be” to hold true, one must work in harmony with the Universe. One must carry their own weight and show up 110% and then allow the circumstances to work out as they are meant to.

Then, when you have really, positively given all you are able to, let it go and you can walk away knowing you did your best.

If, in the end, it doesn’t go the way you wanted, you can find comfort in knowing that you did everything you could.

Remember, the Universe is always, always conspiring in your favor, so the fact that what you wanted did not come to you, in the long run you may come to find that that is the best thing ever that didn’t happen.

And if it does go as you had hoped, celebrate, give thanks, and enjoy the beautiful, beautiful thing you helped to bring into your world.

Peace and Love,



To learn more about natural beauty and healthy natural hair care for “4C” hair, check out Kimberly’s eBook “Curly Halo,” which will teach you to build a healthy hair and life regimen to prevent breakage and yield growth.



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  • Reply
    Starr Williams
    January 3, 2016 at 11:56 pm

    Hi Ms. Kimberly! Like many here and in your social stratosphere I appreciate your natural honesty and beauty. I have taken the leap of faith to go “natural” and now in my 8th month of locking my hair. I’m also allowing myself to be open to the wonderful possibilities that the universe has for me. Everyday I am working to live life and not let life live me! Thank you for sharing words of encouragement and showing us how real beauty. May you and your lovely family enjoy a joyful, healthy and peaceful 2016 <3

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    January 1, 2016 at 2:34 pm

    So beautifully written. I hope that I can be a doer of these words, thank you.

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    Regina Thompson
    December 31, 2015 at 1:58 pm

    Ms Kimberly, my name is Regina Thompson, I wrote my first book “I Surrendered” and I pray that in 2016 I’m able to inspire and uplift individuals who are facing cancer through my testimony of how I survived cancer twice. God lead me on this journey so I feel this book is meant to be and my plans will involve getting my story to as many households to inspire them during their journey of cancer. The book is now on Amazon. Thank you sharing this positive message.

    By the way I have been natural now for four years and I love it. Trying to talk my sister into going natural with her hair as well. My 26 year old daughter to on the challenge and it has been two years for her.

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      Kimberly Elise
      December 31, 2015 at 4:09 pm

      That’s very sweet. Please keep in touch and good luck to you in 2016

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    December 31, 2015 at 1:57 pm

    Kimberly thanks for all the love, light and knowledge you have shared this year. I love your book and the tips for healthy living. I’ve truly been happier and healthier thanks to you. You remain my favorite performer and look forward to all you do next year. Love you in Hit the floor. Best wishes to you and yours.

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