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Write Your Own Definition For Authentic Success

beautiful-leafWhat does it mean to be successful?

The world has confused most of us about the true meaning of success.

The media, our families, our communities and society at large have told us what success looks like and many of us have bought into it. So many people are striving for a life based on a vision established by someone else. As such, when I ask a person how they define success, they either list things that are hinged on lots of money and recognition or a career that is completely unrelated to the gifts they were born with.

Their definition is based on superficial external factors pumped into them throughout their lives.

Whether you are super rich or just trying to get by day to day it is important to look inside yourself and define what success really means to you.

Shake off the ideals and fantasies you see in magazines, in which we are told that success means being thin, having a thick head of hair, having a big house, or flying in private jets. Is that REALLY how you define success? Is that really what will make you joyful in the long run?

Richard Shell, a professor at the Wharton School of the University of Pennsylvania and author of Springboard: Launching Your Personal Search for Success notes that “people may wake up years later [after chasing success] uncertain of why they are dissatisfied” once they achieve it.

He suggests that you take regular “pit stops” in your journey to evaluate yourself, the goals you are chasing, and whether or not it is really what you want in life.

What does success mean to you? Knowing this about yourself will help you structure your life and your day-to-day choices. By knowing your own definition of success, you will have a compass to what ultimately makes you most satisfied with your life experience. Don’t ever forget, it is YOUR life. Define it by your terms.

Inspirational speaker Jen Groover offers a great words: “It’s not about what you want to do for a living, it’s about who you want to be.”

What is your definition of success?

Have you ever really, REALLY thought about what would make you feel proud of your life? Once you have your definition clear, then we can work on achieving that success.

So, think about it and then check back next week as I will be posting more advice on success throughout this month at Also, subscribe to my mailing list to receive free beauty, health, and lifestyle tips!



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    1. I am feeling Stuck with my life and everything I am trying to do, which is sad for me because,I am soon to be 65 years old and don’t have a clue as to what to do with what life I have left on this earth.

  1. Deborah says:

    Success, to me, means complete and absolute freedom. It’s a fact that wherever you are, whatever you do, you’ll never be above a good day’s work. But to me, success is the freedom to work doing what you love, at your leisure, as often or infrequently as you like.

    Success is choices: where to eat, where to live, what to wear, where to go, who to love, how late to sleep, how early to exercise. Freedom in it’s highest, purest and undisturbed form. The freedom that we were born with, before we realized the existence of obligations and restrictions.

    Getting back to (or discovering) that place of passionate, purpose-driven freedom and fulfillment of life. To me, that is success.

  2. Jacquelyn Bourgeois says:

    I loved you in “Back to School Mom.” and all of the other shows and and movies that you’ve graced. You seemed to control your emotions with such grace and beauty. God continue to Bless your mind, body and soul.

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