If you’re trying to hold onto your relationship and make it stronger, don’t resort to manipulative techniques meant to trick a partner into staying with you.
Rather, if two people are in love and sincerely want to be with one another, then the connection will flow naturally. There are a couple of things that can help you and your partner become closer in positive ways. These tips apply to both men and women, but for the sake of simplicity, we’ll refer to just women in this post.
Here are my tips. I’d love to hear yours too!
6 Ways To Maintain Romance In a Relationship
1. Enjoy new and exciting experiences that bring you closer.
Research shows that participating in new and exciting, physical activities with your partner is an effective way to strengthen your bond. I mean activities outside the bedroom. Exercises that require communication and team-work.
Whether it’s rock climbing or go cart racing or learning to drive a stick, you and your partner will feel closer because you are taking risks together, thus triggering the release of dopamine in the brain.
So be adventurous and try a new activity with your man. See it as a bonding experience that is meant to bring the two of you closer.
2. Keep up your personal goals, hobbies, and interests.
Men find women who are dedicated to their own projects to be very sexy because it demonstrates that they are self-sufficient, passionate, and driven. While most of your goals will merge together as the partnership becomes stronger, it’s essential to keep a personal stash of goals and interests for yourself.
It can be anything: reading, jewelry making, or starting an eBusiness, as long as it allows you as a woman to grow.
Your own clear goals, beloved hobbies, and personal interests are an integral part of your future (– with your partner or not). Keeping up your own interests and goals, no matter how big or small, helps you to remember who you are, beyond the context of your relationship.
3. Stay in touch with your femininity and your sexuality
Every woman’s sense of femininity is unique, and in order to keep the attraction between you and your man strong, you must preserve it. If you shaved your legs with fragrant oils before you got serious, don’t stop now!
The same applies to men, of course. Keep doing the things that make you feel like the man you are.
4. Respect each other’s personal space.
Men and women alike require a certain amount of personal space, some more than others. Honoring a person’s sense of personal space shows respect and trust. Sometimes in a marriage or serious relationship, boundaries can become obscure. It’s important to recognize when you’d like something for yourself, or your partner would like a space for himself.
An at-home office space or personal drawer, for instance, can become an area of tension in a relationship.
If you and your partner are arguing about personal space, then there might be underlying trust issues in the relationship that should be confronted. And if your partner has earned your trust with consistent honesty and integrity throughout the entirety of the relationship, then you should definitely respect his personal space.
5. Love him (or her) in the ways that (s)he needs
Do you know that we all speak different “love languages?” That’s right. Dr. Gary D. Chapman has famously written about the five love languages men and women use in order to communicate affection with one another.
The five love languages are physical touch, words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, and quality time.
Do you know your partner’s love language? Do you know your own love language?
I encourage you to discover you and your partner’s love language, and learn to speak it.
6. Fall in love with the deeper person inside
As your relationship progresses, the veneer of who your partner is on the outside will fade, and you will begin to get to know him on the inside, a man who very few people know, and even fewer know as deeply as you. This is the person that you must be compassionate toward and care about. The exterior show — the job, the money — is impermanent; those things do not necessarily speak to who your partner is on the inside.
Here are my six tips for keeping your man.
I’d like to know your tips from both men and women alike!
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